Slightly different blog today because it’s so important and i see the same thing happening over and over!!

I want to ask you something.

How many times have you told yourself you just need more motivation? More discipline? A better diet, a better mindset, more willpower to actually feel more energised and finally achieve those health and fitness goals you have had since the dawn of age!

What if none of that is actually the problem?

Three years ago my life fell apart in almost every direction at once. I’ve spoken about this often and although it was a completely shit time, it really was the start of how EH developed into what it is now and why we became so good at what we do.

My marriage ended. I was becoming a single mum. Daniel had just been diagnosed as autistic and I was carrying all of that worry mostly on my own, mostly as I was trying to fall asleep, and then it was showing up in the middle of the night.

The first thing to go was my sleep.

I would get into bed absolutely exhausted and my mind would just switch on. Racing thoughts, round and round, for an hour sometimes two before I finally dropped off. And then I would wake up. Almost on the dot. And then again. And again.

I thought something was genuinely wrong with me.

I was tired all day and wired all night. I wasn't gaining weight but I was puffy. I’m sure you know exactly what I mean when I say that! My mood was flat. My patience was gone. My brain felt like it was heavy and slowing down more each day.

And I kept trying to fix it. Better diet. More exercise. More willpower. More discipline.

None of it worked. Because I was trying to fix the wrong thing.

The moment everything changed

I knew I needed to sleep better and I wanted to really understand what that meant and how it would actually look for me but also if i wanted to pass this knowledge on, how it would look for any women. So I qualified as a sleep coach and I didn't just do it with one provider, I did it with 2! And what I found completely changed how I understood my own body and how I coach.

I had assumed that sleep was something you sorted at bedtime. A better routine. A bath. Some breathing. Put your phone down.

And although they are all fantastic pieces of advice.

What I discovered was that sleep has almost nothing to do with bedtime.

Your sleep is built across your entire day. It is a reflection of how you have managed your stress, how you have used light, how you have moved, how you have given your body the signals it needs to feel safe enough to switch off at night.

I had it completely backwards.

And the moment I understood how sleep actually worked, everything changed. Not just my sleep. Everything. My energy came back. My mood lifted. My patience with life came back. My ability to actually run my business instead of just surviving it.

The stress in my life didn't go anywhere. It never does. But I finally had the right tools to make sure my body could still rest no matter what life was throwing at me.

What most women don't realise

The tiredness isn't just making you tired.

The poor sleep is quietly driving everything else you have been struggling with too. The weight that won't shift. The low mood. The brain fog. The cravings. The afternoon crash.

These feel like separate battles. They are not. They are all coming from the same place.

And almost nobody has ever shown you how it actually works.

Not the vague advice you have heard a hundred times. The real thing.

Why you can't switch off. Why you wake in the night. Why you can sleep for hours and still feel exhausted. And what actually helps, because most of it doesn't happen at bedtime at all.

What is mad to me is that we are all just walking around going “i’ve never been a good sleeper” or “It’s just how it is now”......Not correct! This is a lie that we tell ourselves that we now believe!

I feel so passionate about it

I am hosting a live sleep webinar all about it.

Honestly fix this and you will fix ALOT of things you think is “just the way you are”

I am going to teach you how sleep actually works inside your body, why yours is breaking down, and the specific things that make the real difference. Not a ten point list you'll never look at again. The actual things that changed my sleep and have changed the sleep of hundreds of women I've coached.

It's happening this Sunday at 19.30. Free for members. £14.99 for non-members.

Register here → https://emmahokayemcoaching.co.uk/livewebinar

If you have ever laid awake wired and exhausted wondering what is wrong with you, sign up.

There is nothing wrong with you. You have just never been shown how this works.

I cannot wait to share it with you.

Emma x